In this deeply personal reflection, NeurOptimal® Trainer Kelley Raleigh shares how at-home neurofeedback helped her build emotional resilience, gain mental clarity, and support self-regulation while navigating grief and the challenges of solo parenting.
I slowed down and listened to what my body wanted.
Doing NeurOptimal® Sessions gives our nervous system the ability to regulate itself and create resilience.
And because of that, I am listening “better” to what it is asking from me.
I had moments today of clarity for my purpose. I know the trauma of becoming a widow, so abruptly and unexpectedly, has been training me for my future.
My vision/brain/dreams have become more and more clear in the last year as I moved through grief and survival mode.
Since every single MOMENT of my life and Zane’s life is 100% on my shoulders, it has taken time for me to grieve, break through old patterns AND continue moving forward.
Every single aspect of our lives is completely up to me. That is hard for people who are married or co-parenting to grasp. Even my closest friends don’t understand what that FEELS like, being the ONLY person responsible for another small human without anyone to pass even the easiest thing off to.
Doing these Sessions has completely saved my sanity. I still get angry. I still cry. I have moments of being scared. But I don’t live in them. That’s how I know this works. Just with my life alone (not to mention the dozens of other clients I have worked with), I see how it is keeping me resilient and hopeful and grounded in my body and life.
This is my awareness on day 8. Remembering how far I have come in 4 years, seeing what I’m capable of AND actually being in trust that I am walking my path.
I have a very beautiful life, but I would never wish solo parenting through grief and survival onto anyone. Never. Every second I am aware that Zane only has me. I can’t mess up and if I do, the consequences are bigger than if I had a partner with me to help soften the blow of co-parenting hard moments, finances, health decisions or even making dinner.
I don’t say this to garner pity. I say this because there’s women out there without any partner, raising a kid, making all the money, wiping the kid’s tears and helping them through things without anyone around to buffer is a mind-blowing experience. So, I see what I’m capable of and wish this level of resilience for you.
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